It is a hell of a thing to write about brutality and suffering with strength, grace, generosity and beauty. Thats precisely what Kelly Sundberg has done in her gripping memoir about marriage and domestic violence. Sundbergs honesty is astonishing, how she laid so much of herself bare, how she did not demonize a man who deserves to be demonized. Instead, she offers a portrait of a broken man and a broken marriage and an abiding love, what it took to set herself free from it all. In shimmering, open hearted prose, she shows that it took everything."--Roxane Gay, author of Hunger and Bad Feminist"In her stunning memoir, Kelly Sundberg examines the heart-breaking bonds of love, detailing her near decade-long marriages slide into horrific abuse. Sundberg shares her own confusions, fears and empathy for her violent husband, even as she comes to realize he will never change. This is an immensely courageous story that will break your heart, leave you in tears, and, finally, offer hope and redemption. Brava, Kelly Sundberg."Rene Denfeld, author of The Child Finder"A fierce, frightening, soulful reckoningGoodbye, Sweet Girl is an expertly rendered memoir that investigates why we stay in relationships that hurt us, and how we survive when we leave them. Kelly Sundberg is a force. She has written the rare book that has the power to change lives."Christa Parravani, author of Her: A MemoirIn this brave and beautiful memoir, written with the raw honesty and devastating openness of The Glass Castle and The Liars Club, a woman chronicles how her marriage devolved from a love story into a shocking tale of abuseexamining the tenderness and violence entwined in the relationship, why she endured years of physical and emotional pain, and how she eventually broke free."You made me hit you in the face," he said mournfully. "Now everyone is going to know." "I know," I said. "Im sorry."Kelly Sundbergs husband, Caleb, was a funny, warm, supportive man and a wonderful father to their little boy Reed. He was also vengeful and violent. But Sundberg did not know that when she fell in love, and for years told herself he would get better. It took a decade for her to ultimately accept that the partnership she desired could not work with such a broken man. In her remarkable book, she offers an intimate record of the joys and terrors that accompanied her long, difficult awakening, and presents a haunting, heartbreaking glimpse into why women remain too long in dangerous relationships.To understand herself and her violent marriage, Sundberg looks to her childhood in Salmon, a small, isolated mountain community known as the most redneck town in Idaho. Like her marriage, Salmon is a place of deep contradictions, where Mormon ranchers and hippie back-to-landers live side-by-side; a place of magical beauty riven by secret brutality; a place that takes pride in its individualism and rugged self-sufficiency, yet is beholden to church and communal standards at all costs.Mesmerizing and poetic, Goodbye, Sweet Girl is a harrowing, cautionary, and ultimately redemptive tale that brilliantly illuminates one womans transformation as she gradually rejects the painful reality of her violent life at the hands of the man who is supposed to cherish her, begins to accept responsibility for herself, and learns to believe that she deserves better....
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Goodbye, Sweet Girl: A Story of Domestic Violence and Survival Reviews
This memoir has so much honesty and raw emotion. It’s a difficult topic but the author doesn’t shy away from laying bare the journey that put her in a position where she went from an eager woman who wanted to love and be loved to someone who had to hide bruises. She parts the cover with finesse to report on how abuse can enter a seemingly loving relationship. She pulls apart the facets of what makes a woman, a strong woman and what makes a marriage tip over to allow domestic violence to enter. C ...more
Absolutely astonishing. A difficult story, shocking in many ways, but it is the job of the reader here to pay attention and not judge. The complexities of those who suffer and endure domestic violence are troubling and frightening- here we read an unraveling confessional that helps build understanding of how the violence web is woven by both parties... innocent or guilty. Beautifully spare and well-written, the book is hard to put down. When finished, you will know more than you ever thought you ...more
I don’t like this author at all. I don’t like her writing style. She repeats phrases too much. She’s whiny. She’s annoying. I was in an abusive marriage also which was why I picked up this book. I didn’t need to hear about her breasts or sex life. Her whinging was just too much. She has serious issues that meds and counseling didn’t help. Maybe someone that reads this will recognize they are being abused and get help.
Bravo to this author for talking about a subject matter that is often ignored. The ugly that goes on behind closed doors, the self esteem issues that go along with. The good times that you try to hold on to, the bad times that make it so hard. This was a story of defeat, then redemption, and ultimately a story of bravery.
My only issue with this book was I really feel the author was TRYING to let me in, but couldn’t quite let me all the way in. And that’s ok. It was still a great book.
Author Sundberg writes chillingly about being married to a violent, yet brilliant man and how she came to be with him. What is unusual is that she did not come from a dysfunctional and/or abusive family, which is the backdrop to so many of these stories of abuse. She writes clearly about how she was able to love her husband, and even protect him, as he abused her. Beautifully, yet compactly written by a woman who had had enough.
I read an advance copy and was not compensated.
I *wish* this book had been better. It wasn't emotionally honest, it withheld emotion and didn't let the reader in. As a reader I felt nothing, but was told everything too many times in the superfluous details. I found the story redundant with excessive word fluff to pad the lack of genuine pain the author must have felt. She talks about secrets in her family, Caleb's family but doesn't seem to realize as the writer she kept secrets from us. None of the other characters besides the aut ...more
I wanted to love this book. The author pours her heart out, and I give her credit for being brave enough to talk openly about a topic we too often sweep under the proverbial rug. I also admire how she has been able to put her life together after living in an emotionally and physically abusive relationship. What I struggled with was the jumping around from one period of time to another, from one location to another. I found it distracting and it broke up the flow of the read for me. But still, I ...more
This is a very honest and open account of being in an abusive marriage. It's also a story of hope, strength, and survival.