A collection of poignant, relatable essays from the author of Never Have I Ever about coming out in her late twenties, entering into her first relationship, and figuring out what it means to be an adult.When Katie Heaney published her first book of essays chronicling her singledom up to age 25, she was still waiting to meet the right guy. Three years later, a lot changed. For one thing, she met the right girl. Here, for the first time, Katie opens up about realizing that she is gay. She tackles everything from the trials of dating in New York City to the growing pains of her first relationship, from obsessing over Harry Styles (because, actually, he does look a bit like a lesbian) to learning to accept herself all over again. Exploring love and sexuality with her neurotic wit and endearing intimacy, Katie shares the message that it's never too late to find love--or yourself....
|Title||:||Would You Rather? A Memoir of Growing Up and Coming Out|
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Would You Rather? A Memoir of Growing Up and Coming Out Reviews
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I loved the other two books I've read by Katie Heaney (NEVER HAVE I EVER and the novel PUBLIC RELATIONS), and I loved this, too. Like her first book, in this one Katie is a very relatable writer, but part of that may be because we're the same age and grew up in similar environments (the midwest). I feel like this book could be written by my best friend, because it's conversational and real, and I love that. Like, if I lived in NYC, I'd totally want to hang out with h ...more
Love, love, love, love, love this book. I listened to the Audio but want to buy the print too.
My bad! How many times have I said I was going to start avoiding current memoirs? Yet, this caught my eye at the bookstore, I read a few pages that seemed good, and I brought it up to the register for reasons that my self of 9 days ago may have been able to explain, but my self of today cannot. Would You Rather? was frustrating in the sense that every now and again there would be an interesting passage that would keep me reading, hoping for more of the same, but in the end there were so many thi ...more
I really loved this book! I could relate in so so many ways (at various points throughout the book, I had to step back and remind myself it wasn’t actually me she was writing about-it was herself). I couldn’t help but root for Katie every step of the way. I’m so glad a book like this exists. Funny, poignant, truthful, real and one of the most relatable books I have ever read about coming out, what that looks like, and what goes on in your head when it’s all happening. Excellent and highly recomm ...more
Every once in a while a book crosses my path at the perfect moment, in a sort of unintentional serendipity - this was one of those books!
Heaney spends a lot of words lamenting that her story is probably unfortunately unique but I related all too well, as another woman who fell prey to compulsory heterosexuality and didn't come out until her late 20s. I think she will learn as a consequence of publication just how often this happens and how valuable and relatable her take is.
She's far more eloq ...more
This book arrived Tuesday afternoon and I couldn't stop reading it until I finished it Thursday morning. It's the kind of book I'd bring into the kitchen with me so I didn't miss out on reading during the 8 min my pasta was cooking.
I loved so many things about this book. It's soooo relatable. Even though parts of my story are different, I found myself nodding along so much. I loved hearing about Katie's love story with Lydia, and I especially love that it's not sugar-coated or cliched. She gets ...more
Buzzfeed profiled this book a couple of months ago and had a sample of the book to read in the article. I was immediately charmed by the author’s voice and the similarities to my life.
I’ve never met anyone else in my real life who came out in their late 20’s or took so long to figure out they were gay. I will, however, blame that on a heteronormative upbringing and call it good. Either way it is fun to see yourself reflected in what you read, especially when it happens with such infrequency.
We need more queer narratives like this!
I especially liked:
- The push back on the narrative the queer people always 'know' and are just hiding it until they come out
- The notion that when you discover/embrace your queer identity, it doesn't have to invalidate all the crushes/feelings/experiences you had prior to that
- Not everybody is on the same timeline and that's a great thing about the queer community-- so many different paths and experiences are what make it such an interesting community